Big Ray made a comment to me the other night. It was not all that unusual for him. It's just that over the years I have continually been annoyed by it and have decided to examine why he continues to say it and what it is I can do about it. The comment: "Why can't you be sweet sometimes?" Okay, I can hear the crickets starting up because I know that the average person will say "Well, what's the big freakin' deal?" Or the average guy would ask "Yeah, why can't you be sweet sometimes?"
Well , this time instead of ignoring the question as I have come to do after 13 years, I wanted to know just what I could do to be any sweeter than I already am. I mean, in my book, if I got any sweeter, Big Ray should go into a diabetic coma after just one of my sweet little kisses. Hey! I think it is very sweet of me to grocery shop, put the groceries away, cook the food, clean up after meals, vacuum, mop, run errands, pack lunches, get clothes ready for the next day, serve as an alarm clock and on and on and on. I mean, I could go on but gosh I don't mean to nag. Oh and did I mention that I work too?!?!? Anyhoo, I told Big Ray that I thought all of these things should qualify me as being sweet as pie. Guess what? He had the nerves to say that it certainly did not qualify and neither does his going to work everyday, paying the bills and fixing things around the house. Big Ray says doing what one is supposed to do does not qualify as being kind and gracious (this is the definition of sweet found at http://www.thefreedictionary.com/). He says being sweet is going above and beyond what one is supposed to do.
In today's world, it seems like those of us who actually do the things we should do are in the minority. It also seems like those who do what they want to do in lieu of doing the things they need, should or are supposed to do are the ones who get ahead. I guess in the end I agree with Big Ray but, every now and then, it would be nice to feel like a sweet person just because I cooked a delicious dinner.
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